Why?

I don't understand why, in human society, anyone needs to come out.

Why is it that we see it as something so far from the norm, that it needs to be announced, like it actually matters? Because it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter at all.

What is wrong with our society, that people have to come out?

Our society is broken, imperfect.

Why is it, that we can't fix it?

Is it maybe the fact that we, ourselves, are broken and imperfect?

That no matter how hard we strive, we will never live in a perfect world?

Is it that a perfect world can't exist with us in it, because we, as humans, are by nature filled with flaws?

A Utopian society is one of the most harmful ideas that has ever crept into the heads and hearts of humankind. It is one that makes people believe any means will justify the end, if this perfect society, this Utopia can be made to exist.

Perfection is such a harmful idea. No matter how hard we strive, it can't be achieved. Nothing is perfect.

Perfection is an illusion.

Never try to be perfect.

Try to be your best. Your best isn't perfect, it never will be. But is can be pretty damn amazing.

Even try to be better than your best, because you just may improve yourself.

But don't try for perfection. It can't be achieved, and anyone who seeks perfection will ultimately fail.

As humans, we will always make mistakes. They will always have consequences.

As a society, we expect too much. It is right that there are consequences for mistakes. It is not right that we look on somebody as something lesser, for making mistakes.

Laters,
Joshua.

Addendum: Apparently I didn't make myself clear.

I was, at no time, suggesting people shouldn't come out.

I was pointing to a fundamental flaw in society, where a person's sexuality is assumed to be heterosexual unless something points otherwise. Where children are forced into hetero-normative views, to the point that some will go long times in their lives not realising that maybe they do like the same gender, so strongly is it ingrained in them that they will grow up and marry someone of the opposite gender.

When it comes to sexual identity, it is an individuals right to explore that how they wish, regardless of the gender of the person they explore it with. A society that teaches us any one way is normal, in this matter, is not functioning as it should to raise children in an environment best for them, in my view.

Do not assume I am unaware of the current reality. I know society considers heterosexuality normative behaviour. However, there was a time when it was normal for women, or racial minorities to have no rights. Just because something is one way, that does not in any way make it right.

My point, when I said no-one  should have to come out, was that there is a fundamental flaw in society that it is necessary to have to explain we are different than a societal expectation.